DO NOT rush into anything. In fact, being friends first goes a long way toward getting to know somebody. For starters, you have to truly get to know a person before trying to start a serious relationship with them.
Also if you’re not trying to start a serious relationship and are just going through the phases of figuring out what you like, what you don’t like, what’s tolerable, what’s a dealbreaker, etc. make sure not to lead anyone into something which brings us to the next topic
COMMUNICATION. As corny as it sounds communication makes all the difference, make sure that whoever you are in a relationship with is someone you aren’t afraid to tell when you like/dislike something or if you want to hold off on one thing or leave another thing for the future.
Make sure you’re on the same page because if you aren’t, you won’t be understanding what your partner wants/needs in the relationship or wants more or less of or what you’re both agreeing on/ have a mutual agreement on and vice versa.
This is why it’s so important for them to feel comfortable communicating with you and why you need to communicate with them because we are people and we do not read minds. I would also suggest that if you have a certain faith/ religion or no religion or just certain morals in general as people, You make sure they know what you value because having someone with similar values plays a major role in where a relationship can end up.
You could date someone for months and find something that is seriously important to you that they have no interest in or don’t care about and it could be an immediate deal-breaker, best to lay things like that out in the open.
Finally, a very important thing that we tend to overlook as people is self-love. It took me a long time to learn that if you wake up every morning and you don’t love yourself, it really does make you incapable of really being able to put that type of love in a healthy way to someone else.
Instead of it feeling fulfilling which it may at first, it will eventually drain you. One last thing to tackle, It does not make you a monster to have preferences. If you take time to keep yourself in shape and healthy and prefer someone who works on that themself or would be willing to do that with you, that’s perfectly okay.
It’s proven that in order to have a good relationship, you have to have some physical attraction to your partner anyways.
If you’re someone who isn’t all about that stuff that’s good too, in the end, the only thing that matters is you find someone you love, and someone that loves you equally back and treats you hoe you deserve to be treated, you do not have to make sacrifices of your own moral for someone because despite who you like, Self-respect is still the most important thing.
Written by Kiara Betty, Quora